If you are unaware of who you truly are, asleep to what you truly want, and repeating negative patterns in relationships, chances are you may be sleepwalking through your life. If the life you want to lead eludes you and you find yourself doing the same, feeling the same, reacting the same over and over again, and you want to know why, read these 5 signs and see if any resonate with you.
5 Signs You Are Sleepwalking Through Life:
- You dread getting out of bed in the morning
You are waking up to the same monotonous routine, a routine void of excitement or inspiration. Your highlights of the day include watching your TV show, having that glass of wine (or 2 or 3) and going to bed.
- You are constantly overwhelmed with putting out fires at home and at work
You are frequently worried and anxious at home and at work. You can’t be present with people around you. Someone asks you a question and you don’t even hear it because your mind is on the dreary responsibilities you can’t possibly complete. For some odd reason, you persistently take on more…
- Your emotional state is tied to your boss’s, your partner’s, or your friend’s mood
If they are happy with you, you are in a good mood and if they are unhappy, irritated, angry or disappointed, you take those emotions on without being consciously aware. With all of your responsibilities and need to make others happy, you have little or no time to reflect on your own feelings.
- You have an inner negative belief about yourself that prevents you from changing what is not working
Most of us who sleepwalk through life feel “not enough” in some way. “I’m not capable,” “I’m not lovable,” or “I’m not smart.” Any time you find yourself thinking or feeling this way, you realize what actually is standing in your way — your negative beliefs about yourself.
- You keep reacting to the same people in the same way feeling stuck in a pattern of behavior you can’t control
You tell yourself you are going to be kind to your mom, partner or sibling and when you see them, you can’t help reacting to them in the same old way. You seem to get triggered by something they say or do, but you’re not sure why — and you fall into your old beliefs, thoughts, feelings and patterns (without you even being aware of this).You are not conscious as to the impact of these triggers because you simply have lost touch with how you feel and why you feel that way.
If you see yourself one or more of these 5 signs, the bad news is you are sleepwalking through your life. The good news is that just by recognizing that you are experiencing any of the above is also an awakening! You are waking up to how you feel, think, believe and act, which is the first step to change what’s no longer serving you. You cannot heal what you do not acknowledge.
This is really exciting because as you awaken, you discover that what you are looking for is within you. Your true self is the part of you that knows what you need, what you don’t need and what to let go of to live life with clarity, compassion and purpose. The only reason you could not see this before is because your true self, that inner voice, has been hidden beneath the clutter of all the above.
You keep telling yourself that one day you will get to do what you love like painting, writing, learning to play golf or play your favorite musical instrument. You keep putting this dream — this wish — on your New Years’ resolution list, year after year, but you never have the time or energy to follow through. Worse yet, you feel guilty for wanting to take this time and that guilt keeps you from doing exactly what your true self is calling you to do.
But do you really want to change? Sleepwalking through life keeps you safe in some ways — you know what to expect, you’ve gotten comfortable in numbness, and it takes less of you to sleep through life.
Just imagine what it would feel like to wake up excited for each new day where you knew why you were here and had time to nourish your dreams and desires. Imagine what it would feel like to be in a state of calm and serenity despite the chaos around you. Imagine what it would feel like to finally understand your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and patterns. What if that awareness, that deep knowing, brought about joy, compassion and purpose?
When you know who you truly are, what you want, and how to bring about your deepest desires, you are alive, awake and present to every moment of your life. This is the gift of self-discovery once you awaken to what’s asleep in your life.
Start watching your life as an outside observer with a clear eye. Pay attention to how you feel at work and at home. Don’t be afraid to let yourself feel the emotions. By consciously bringing awareness to your negative emotions, thoughts and patterns, you are able to understand and release them — and create new positive emotions, thoughts and patterns that support your true self.
If you are ready to meet your true self, discover your purpose, and begin manifesting the life you want, I created a practical and grounded 5-Step Process, called The Dolphin’s Dance Online Course, to help people who are sleepwalking through life awaken to their limiting thoughts, emotions, beliefs and patterns. I take you step-by-step in this precious journey self-discovery so you can live the life you deserve. This online course is easy to use and you’ll be provided with a workbook to help you move through each explorative exercise.
We are not guaranteed another day, so don’t let another year go by promising yourself you’ll get to living your life someday.